So, Today I Cried...

December 31, 2019


If I had known being a mother would be full of so many tearful moments I may have reconsidered. But I'm glad I didn't know. Perhaps I would have missed out on one of the greatest experiences of my life...being a mother. But back to my crying. 


It’s going to sound silly...but this is my truth and I’m not ashamed to share it. 


See, I was dropping my son off to preschool like I normally do. I gave him his kisses and cuddles and proceeded out of the building to my car. On my way out, I noticed at least 3 students coming in with either papers, trinkets or dressed in a costume of sorts. Immediately, my heart sank! I hopped in my car, checked my email and confirmed my fears. My son had a small project or “show and share” due TODAY. SMH. 


His specific assignment was to report to his class, one fact about Asia and to bring in an item that represented that fact. I was well aware of the assignment but assumed it was for the following week. As soon as I realized just how WRONG I was, I went into panic mode...but quickly morphed right into Mommy Mode. 


I googled “Asia facts” and the very first thing I saw was Japan and its flag! I thought to myself...”that’s it!” So I scrambled through my car to find an old 8x10 piece of paper...which also just happened to be a receipt for an oil change. I neatly folded and tore out an even square. Then, I dug through my center console like a crazy woman and by the sheer grace of God found a handful of small circular felt pieces. And one, yes, just ONE, happened to be RED. I don’t even know exactly why I still had those felt pieces...they were supposed to be a part of a car air freshener, but they never actually worked, so I should have trashed them months ago. But clearly, they had a least one of them did. 


So I ran into the the school and went straight to my son’s class. His teachers looked surprised to see me back and asked what I needed. I kindly and quietly requested a piece of tape and my son. One of his teachers said “oh yeah, he told us he forgot his show and share...and we told him it’s totally okay.” I smiled big and replied “no it’s not...but thank you.” 


My son ran over to me with his sweet, shy smile and said “mommy, what am I going to use for show and share?” I pulled him in close and showed him the flag I made in the car. I rehearsed his one line fact about Asia with him and gave him the biggest hug and kiss ever. He walked away from me smiling from ear to ear and said “thank you Mommy.” 


I stood up, let out a deep exhale and smiled at his teachers as they gave me a reassuring wink and thumbs up. Then, I ran to my car and the waterfall started. I could not even control myself. I had to sit for a few minutes before I drove off. Once I calmed myself a bit, I called my husband and explained to him what happened. He was surprisingly supportive (we’ve been married more than 12 years now so he’s starting to understand some of the emotion associated with Upon venting to him, I came to realize a few reasons why I was crying and I want to share them with you. 


First, I understood that some of what I was dealing with had to do with my own stuff. Childhood traumas that I had experienced included not always having what I needed and occasionally feeling left out. The thought of my children having those feelings st